BE KIND TO YOURSELF
We are told to be kind to others. What about being kind to ourselves? I am my worst critic and continuously berating myself for not being “enough”. Smart enough, thin enough, pretty enough and motivated enough …the list is endless.
Women are probably the worst offenders of this self-criticism, always comparing ourselves to others. Comparing our looks, lives ,and careers. The only thing this leads to is depression and resentment. I have made a conscious decision, every day to think of one good thing about me. Write a positive personality trait of compliment myself on something. It can be small like “wow, that chicken curry I made was delicious!”
Children are sponges and take in every piece of information that they see and hear (even if it doesn’t seem like it). I have noticed a few things that my daughter does and says that has made me take note of the things I say to myself and about myself.
Yesterday while bathing Emily, she looked at me and grabbed her tummy and said, “fat tummy”. Later that evening she smacked me on the bum (playfully as she ran buy) she said “smack, mommy’s big bum”. She obviously hears me talking about my body.
I am my daughter’s role model, she emulates what she sees. I don’t want to teach her to not like herself.
“Be kind to your body, gentle with your mind and patient with your heart. Stay true to your spirit, cherish your soul and never doubt yourself. You are still becoming, my love, and there is no one more deserving of the nurturing grace of your love.” ― Becca Lee
Do you have any tips for being less self-deprecating? If so, please share.